Today almost everyone has a smart phone. It would not be wrong to call today’s youth as phone addicts or to be more specific I would call them as phone maniacs. You will not find anyone without phone at any place. People use their smart phones everywhere even during office meetings, college lectures, travelling in metros/ buses, dining tables, driving, toilets, etc. Well, not only the youngsters are shackled with the habit of smart phones, few days ago my 65 years old aunt asked me to teach her how to download and use WhatsApp. I know that’s hilarious but I really appreciate her zeal to learn something new at her age. But does she really need to use WhatsApp, I mean does it anyhow going to affect her if she doesn’t use WhatsApp, does it anyhow going to affect us if don’t use our smart phones lesser? Are we really addicted to our phones? Are you feel restless if you don’t check your phone for more than an hour?
About 100 years ago, phones were known as a device which could only be used to communicate with other person. But now definition of a phone has changed drastically. Phones have traversed the journey from landline wired phones to mobile phones and then to smart phones very fast. The mobile phones and especially smart phones have penetrated the market very fast and are still progressing with advanced features. Phone is no more a device just to talk, it has become a camera, music player, calculator, scheduler, navigator, alarm clock etc. The most prominent reason to be addicted with smart phones is that it has made our lives much convenient. You can check your mails anytime anywhere, buy clothes/ groceries online, order food anytime, etc. As a popular adage says excess of everything is bad, the same is true with phones.
I think excess of convenience has made us lazy. People are reluctant to go market for shopping or even buying daily use products. The business of local shop keepers has hampered a lot due to which. Local book shops are bearing great loss because most of the people prefer to buy books online due to discounts. Such people don’t realize that they are refraining themselves from the new experiences of meeting people and society. Convenience is good guys but don’t forget to get social.
Due to the feature of text messaging and now chatting, people have become unconformable in connecting to peers personally. Well, every coin has two facets. Where chatting apps and social media has drastically reduced the distance between people and connect people over the globe with a single click, it has also made people hesitant to talk others personally. They are so comfortable in chatting that they have lost their confidence to talk to people straight through their eyes. Many feel shy during public speaking. Connecting to old friends is good but don’t let yourself engrossed in chatting so much that your leadership quality get disrupted.
No one can define what is smart. No one can define what is good or bad. Truth is always situational. I just want to remind you all that technology is for our convenience and don’t become slave of the technology. Being techno savvy is good but letting it dominate you is not healthy at all. Enjoy everything but do not get addicted to it. Digital world cannot replace the essence of true physical world. So forget your phone for some time and spare some time to just feel how beautiful the world is.
This Valentine’s I discovered the epitome of true love and courage. In Agra resides the real beauty and love and I am not talking about Taj Mahal. This monument of love, care, beauty, sacrifice and courage is known as Sheroes Hangout. Sheroes is a café at Agra run by acid attack victims. A café with relaxing ambience, great food, unlimited access to wifi and books. After all these benefits, you are free to pay at your own will. Sheroes also provides the space to acid attack victims to nurture their talents as you can buy dresses and painting also from their which were created by them. And that’s not enough about the Sheroes.
Sheroes is the best example to show the world that to touch the lives, hearts and souls of others, one don’t needs to be a famous or a wealthy personality, it only needs a big heart full of love and empathy. The most vital thing one requires to help someone, is the intent. Usually, smallest acts done whole heartedly are far more effective than the biggest acts. A small café at small town Agra run by such big hearts is the epitome of true courage to bounce back after such a tragedy, love to serve people with smile and beauty reflects through their eyes.
Usually, we all are so engrossed in our hectic life schedules, cold wars with our bosses and mother in laws, stress of paying bills, late night parties, cricket matches & TV serials etc. that we don’t get time to realize the real meaning of life. Sheroes make me realize what life is all about. It has made me realize that we are not the bodies, we actually are the souls. I am sure many of us would not have the courage to see the faces of acid attack victims in newspapers or internet and would never thought to meet them personally in your wildest dream, forget about helping them. Don’t be ashamed if this is true because I was one of you. Not everyone has the courage to see the burnt and distorted faces but Sheroes has changed me completely. Alike most of you I was in a dilemma whether I could be able to face them without getting frightened or not. But trust me the moment I talked to them, saw their smiling faces and looked into their eyes, I forgot that their faces even have a single scar. I realized that meeting them personally is much easier than to see them in newspapers, television, etc. because their eyes make me connect to their hearts. Their happiness reflects from eyes and smiles. The reason I could feel so comfortable with them is that they were so comfortable with themselves. They no more feel isolated, disgust or defeated. Their smiles exhibits their courage to arise above all the heinous attacks after facing so much wrath from their own beloved parents and society. They are working on their dreams and are living with more enthusiasm and zeal than anyone of us could think of.
I urge all of you to visit Sheroes atleast once in your life. I am sure many of you might cried there but those tears would not be of fear, sadness or sympathy, they would be of happiness and empathy after seeing their smiles. Next time any of you visit Agra, make sure to visit the real Taj Mahal, Sheroes Hangout café. Your support is their strength.
For more details about Sheroes, please click on the link: http://www.sheroeshangout.com/
Their Facebook page is:
https://www.facebook.com/StopAcidAttacks and https://www.facebook.com/SheroesHangout
Here I would like to share another story about TITANIC, I recently read:
There were three ships which were nearby when the Titanic sunk.
One of them was known as the Sampson. It was 7 miles away from the Titanic and they saw the white flares signalling danger, but because the crew had been hunting seals illegally and didn’t want to be caught, they turned and went the opposite direction away from the Titanic. This ship represents us and people like us if we are so busy looking inward at our own sin and lives that we can’t recognize when someone else… is in need.
The next ship was the Californian. This ship was only 14 miles away from the Titanic, but they were surrounded by ice fields and the captain looked out and saw the white flares, but because the conditions weren’t favorable and it was dark, he decided to go back to bed and wait until morning. The crew tried to convince themselves that nothing was happening. This ship represents those of us who say I can’t do anything now. The conditions aren’t right for it and so we wait until conditions are perfect before going out.
The last ship was the Carpathia. This ship was actually headed in a southern direction 58 miles away from the Titanic when they heard the distress cries over the radio. The captain of this ship knelt down, prayed to God for direction and then turned the ship around and went full steam ahead through the ice fields. This was the ship that saved the 705 survivors of the Titanic.
When the captain looked back at the ice fields they had come through, he said Someone else hands must have been at the helm of this ship! This ship represents those who would pray to God for direction and then go without hesitation.
Life whispers in your soul and speaks to your heart. We need to take time to listen to these whispers and take heed.
In today’s hectic life styles, the living standards are enhancing significantly and the depression among the society is increasing at much higher rate. Well, needless to say that this depression is very much interrelated with our life styles. Have you ever thought that many years ago, people used to spend a simple life with the minimum luxuries or I should say with no such luxuries of present time? They used to rise early, devote time for worship, do household chores by themselves, eat simple food and live a very simple and ordinary life. But now despite of all the luxuries like car to travel, multiple cuisines to eat, excellent employment opportunities, the depression has inculcated and is getting worse with time. I mean, why the scenario is extremely opposite?
Well, the answer is “EXPECTATIONS”. Yes, believe it or not, our unfulfilled expectations are not less than any cancer. Anger, depression and all other negative feelings are emerged when our expectations doesn’t get fulfilled. I am not saying that expectation is a bad thing. It’s only your attitude towards it what matters. How would you get a thing if you don’t expect it to be yours? One should have expectations but it must be handled carefully. As a popular adage says, one should be ambitious but must keep a strict eye on the desires. I can relate to this adage closely because I feel that one must know how to handle their expectations either fulfilled or unfulfilled. One should not neither get mad with the happiness if it’s fulfilled nor get mad with the sorrow if it’s unfulfilled. There are many other ways as well to cope up with depression.
We should dream big. Until and unless we don’t aim for the best, how would we get it? Having desires, ambitions and dreams is a good thing. They keep you motivated towards your goal in life. Once the goals are established, one should be determined to work hard to achieve them. Because if your expectations are high and you don’t work hard to achieve it, you will feel yourself inferior and get depressed. So, be realistic with your goals. Invigilate yourself, ask yourself, are you really ready to pay the price what your expectation costs. It’s all in your mind and heart. Hence, being realistic with the expectations is the foremost important to cope up with the depression.
Invest time in what you like:
Investing time in what you like to do is very simple but not easy. In you hectic life styles, some or the other liabilities pull you down and keep you busy into unproductive work. We really don’t get time to spend with ourselves. Spare some time to gel up with the person you see daily in the mirror. That is the person who will never leave you alone and would never make you feel depressed. Love yourself and invest time in activities you like to do. A popular adage says that time you enjoy wasting is not wasted. Try to understand the deep message in this adage. It will make you realize that the time you spend with yourself is equally important to the time you spend with your family. Depression is a very negative thought and if you keep your thoughts, mind and heart busy in positive activities and enjoy what you are doing, depression can never infect you.
Exercise is one of the best ways to cope up with depression. Depression can subsequently land you in many health problems. To keep yourself healthy, exercise can be of good help. It can be as simple as a morning walk in your garden, the laughing exercise, yoga, etc. You can even consult a trainer for exercises. Involve a friend with you and boring workout will be converted to a nice party. Remember enjoy what you do. Don’t stress yourself.
Mild depression can be developed due to overthinking and personal or professional stress which can be cured with the bouquet of positive thoughts and de-stress exercises. But if you are suffering from the acute depression, consult a doctor as soon as possible.
Depression is just a feeling which can be handled with its counterpart. Happiness is the antidote for depression. Keep smiling and stay healthy.
Through a conversation one day, he discovered she had a son named Tristen Osaka. After tracking the son down, Worley called him to let him know about Barela’s whereabouts.
The moment took Osaka by complete surprise. He had been looking for his mom for three years, but wasn’t able to locate her.
“I was sitting at my office, working at my desk, just going about my routine and it just caught me off guard,” he told ABC Action News. “It was most definitely a blessing.”
Osaka travelled from Colorado to Tampa to see his mom, who suffers from schizophrenia. Like the once homeless man with the “golden voice,” who reunited with his mom after 20 years, Osaka was able to see his mother again.
“Just ecstatic. A lot of emotion, sad, happy,” Osaka said of reuniting with his mom.
And Barela won’t be living on the streets any longer. Osaka said, “Want to get her back home, get her cleaned up, get her safe and get her off the streets.”
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Bronnie Ware is an Australian nurse who spent several years working in palliative care, caring for patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She recorded their dying epiphanies in a blog called Inspiration and Chai, which gathered so much attention that she put her observations into a book called, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying”.
Ware writes of the phenomenal clarity of vision that people gain at the end of their lives, and how we might learn from their wisdom. “When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently,” she says, “common themes surfaced again and again.”
Here are the top five regrets of the dying, as witnessed by Ware:
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
“This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.”
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
This came from almost every patient that she nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
“Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.”
5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.
“This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content, when deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.”
What’s your greatest regret so far, and what will you set out to achieve or change before you die?
Pretending to be a super hero is the most fascinating and profound memory of one’s childhood. We all used to admire super heroes as our role models. We always believed that a super hero is a person who has extraordinary powers, lives a secret life and changes his dress in a fraction of a second during a dangerous situation to save the earth. But as we grew, the mere idea of presence of a super hero seems to be childish.
I believe that superhero is not a supernatural being. Presence of superheroes with a flaunting physic and spectacular costumes may not be true but undoubtedly superheroes do exist. Anyone who has the courage to stand against all the obstacles despite of numerous failures. The smallest act of courage, determination and selflessness is heroism. I strongly believe that everyone has a hidden superhero in them. It is hidden not because it is supposed to be so as showcased in superhero movies but it is hidden because we don’t realize that we exhibit a superhero with extraordinary powers within ourselves.
Yes it’s true we all possess immense powers but we refrain ourselves to believe it due to conditioning of our minds from the day we born. I have heard a story in my childhood which says that in a circus, a huge elephant is tied with a thin rope. Although he can easily break that rope and became free but he remained calm because he believed that he cannot break that rope. It seems so insane to most of us because we realize what powers does an elephant possess but he doesn’t because that elephant was brought at circus when he was a baby and tied with that rope. At that time, he did not have that much power to break that rope to run away. So, his mind has been conditioned to believe that this big animal possessing immense power will not be able to break a tiny rope. Did you notice the power of conditioning? We all went through this in our childhood in some or the other aspects. How many of us would laugh when an 8 years boy come and say that I want to become an aeronautical engineer at NASA. Most of us would laugh instead of encouraging him to chase his dream. That is the simplest form of conditioning to inhibit one’s astonishing powers to see beyond limits.
I believe we all are superheroes in disguise. We just need to replenish the fuel and ignite the engine to take off the flight of being your favorite superhero. We just need to tear off the curtains of conditioning from our eyes to look for the reservoir of powers inside us. Below mentioned qualities would help you to introspect and realize that we all are superheroes.
- Never give up attitude:
Believe it or not, we all loved our superheroes for the attitude of never giving up. Whatever may be the circumstances, he may fail many times but he stands again and fights until wins. That’s the most admirable quality of a superhero. Doesn’t you agree that we all should have this attitude? A popular adage says, “Problem is not the problem, the problem is your attitude towards it”. I always says look for the opportunities in the obstacles. Problems are blessings in disguise. So one should never give up because of obstacles because obstacles will create you what you need to be when you succeed. Accept each challenge as part and parcel of life and never give up.
Alike every one of us, every superhero is unique with different powers. Like Superman can fly, Spiderman can jump, stick & swing, Hulk has immense strength etc. And you know what the best part is they all possess different powers and all are best at what they do. I mean Spiderman would never sit ideal, see villains ruling the earth and make excuses that I can’t do anything because I can’t fly, Superman would never say I can’t do anything because I can’t swing or stick. They know how to use their strengths optimally. We all have different characteristics and we must identify our inner strengths and excel in it. So, whatever you do, make sure you do it wholeheartedly with the optimal use of available resources.
This is the quality we all need to develop within us. In today’s social world, getting fame is the motive of most of us. Because of this motive, the qualities of selflessness & humanity are getting diminished. Do you think any superhero would have fought with any ferocious villain just for the sake of glory? In fact if they would want fame, they would have never worn masks and hide their identity. They fought to save the lives of their fellow people. They stake their lives to save the lives of others. They also saved lives of the people they hate. We all must inculcate such type of selflessness quality within ourselves. We must help others without our selfish motives. Love without reason.
Any superhero not fought and saved people just because someone has asked them to do so. It is their solo discussion and strong instinct to use their powers in a positive way and help others. They enjoy what they do. So develop the quality of enjoying your work. Trust me once you start enjoying whatever you do, you start loving it more and excel in everything you do. Happiness is contagious in every aspect. If you would start enjoying your life, life would make more situations you will enjoy. Your surroundings would become pleasant.
Now here comes the most important and extremely difficult quality of a superhero. I would call is as difficult because very few people have the courage to different, to stand above all odds. When any superhero discovered his powers and decides to utilize it to help others, it is itself is a courageous decision. To stake one’s life for the benefits of others is not a game for week hearted. Courage doesn’t mean that you don’t afraid but it means that you would not let the fear stop you. Courage is the ability to rise above all your fears. Every superhero have the courage to chase his dreams and to create his own destiny. They have the courage to believe in themselves despite of what shape or size they are.
I hope this article would help you all to introspect and discover your own superheroes. Actually we all possess these qualities and practice them unintentionally every day. We just need to focus all these qualities in the core of our heart, listen & believe to our instincts and have the courage to follow it. Your instinct will never mislead you. Trust it and just move on the path of a superhero.
Many people try for some time and then leave it with depressed mind or with lame excuses for their failures, or blame everyone else and maintain that they are alright. But it is not correct. Have you tried your utmost? There is a story narrated by Swami Vireswarananda, the tenth president of Ramakrishna Math & Ramakrishna Mission.
Once there was a ship sailing in the high seas. A young boy accidentally fell into the sea from the deck. He knew swimming. So he was struggling to swim and kept himself afloat. But there was no help. Though he got exhausted, he was trying to swim and kept himself floating. At last when he was about to sink, a life-boat was lowered and the boy was saved. If the boy had not struggled, or given up his struggle, he would have drowned. So you see, it is necessary to keep on struggling even if there is no sign of success in sight.
One more thing necessary for developing will-power is the positive outlook in life. It goes hand in hand with the most often quoted ‘self – confidence’ of Swami Vivekananda. The man who has faith in himself, has tremendous will – power already. All negative thoughts should be discarded daily and the mind should be given newer and newer positive and encouraging ideas. Each disappointment is a filling station to renew your energy.
We all must learn to be quiet and cheerful. It not only helps us, it helps others. Suppose a man loses his balance and if you come to him with a peaceful, quiet mind, you exert a quieting influence on that person and help him to regain his equilibrium. You can always get a standard. The way you do everything can become an example. When you do things casually – thinking “what-ever!” “It’s alright!” – it means that you are acting thoughtlessly and lack an order of spirit. The true art of performing action means doing things with poise and calmness. Our thoughts can make us careful or careless.
How do you achieve this? We can achieve it by putting animation into our daily work. Seek inspiration in books, friends, art, music, travel, etc. Interest is a measure of aliveness.
Doing a work mechanically like a paid worker is always damaging for the development of a good personality. A person who can turn his boring work into a work of very interesting nature never comes to failure. He is wanted everywhere. This type of person never feels that he is suffering when doing any hard work or anything like that. When you are undergoing a hardship, it is natural to feel that you are suffering. But how is it possible not to feel like that and to feel enthusiastic? This can be achieved through constant endeavor and practice.
Be cheerful. Don’t Suffer….
‘Do you want happiness?’ – Pose this question to anyone and the answer you get would be a definite ‘YES!’ But if you ask, ‘Are you happy?’ the face of many will turn pale! There is vast difference between “what we want” and “what we are” and that matters a lot in our lives.
This difference is a measure of the satisfaction that is stores up in a person. One can use this satisfaction as a spur to go forward and achieve the goal which one has set for oneself. Alternately, one may get bogged down by the dissatisfaction and waste one’s life through constant worry.