How to handle Criticism?
Who doesn’t like compliments? It’s human nature to seek compliments. However, sometimes we face criticism. Anyone can be delighted over the compliments but everyone cannot handle the criticism gracefully. As it is easy to be happy in the good times but it demands lot of courage to be satisfied during the hardship. It is an art to cope up with criticism and convert the difficult situation in a favourable condition.
What is a criticism? It is a judgement of disapproval on the basis of analysis. To be a little more informal and blunt, I would say criticism is an uncharitable remark about a person or a deed. Whenever we do something, we expect compliments in the form of acknowledgement. But it doesn’t happen always. Sometimes we get criticize, due to which we get angry and starts being rude to the concerned person. This is our first mistake. To learn the art of handling criticism, the first prerequisite is to never lose your temper. Here are some other ways to handle the criticism.
Turn the obstacle into opportunity: learn and improve
Tell me the name of a single person who is never been criticized. The most successful people, be it scientists, actors, authors etc. have faced the criticism and it is their ability to improve based on the critic’s comments instead of getting angry and sit idle. This is what made them what they are today. We all know our ‘angry young man’ Amitabh Bachchan was criticized several times due to his deep voice tone. Author of my favourite Harry Porter series, J K Rowling was criticized and rejected several times by publishers. Many renowned scientists like Albert Einstein, Thomas Alva Edison etc. were criticized and proclaimed as mad by others. Apart from the prominent personalities, a common man recently known because of a movie named as Dashrath Manjhi who carved the mountain and build a 360 ft. long road alone with just a hammer and a chisel in 22 years was criticized and taunted by villagers and his family. But do they leave what they were determined to do. Just think what we would be deprived of if any one of these had left their work due to the criticism. They handled the criticism by transforming it to work for them in a positive way and emerged as a better personality.
Try to be analytical
Instead of taking the criticism as it is, try to be analytical. Instead of getting angry with the person who criticized us, we should try to analyze the intensions of the person. I know it is easier to say then done. Just take a deep breath before saying anything. It will help you to control the temper, increase the sense of well-being and give you time to analyze. Try to analyze whether the comment made is really directed at you or not. Make sure you are not being judgmental and reacting over a comment that might be made for someone else.
Before reacting to any type of criticism, judge whether the one criticizing is really competent or not. For example, your neighbor who had never painted their walls of any color other than white and criticizing to use some different color combination in your home. The one who do not know the difference between mauve and purple or pink and fuchsia is criticizing your color choice. In this case, simply shrug and ignore the matter. As being angry on them is worthless and they deserve your sympathy.
Do not counter back
As I mentioned earlier, the most important stance of this art is to never lose your temper. When anyone criticizes, there are two possibilities that it might be right or wrong. If the critic is right then there is no point to counter back and that can only be possible if you be analytical. Usually people enjoy criticizing others. They try to bring them down by criticizing. But they don’t understand that it’s wrong and in vain as they are injuring their own honesty by doing wrong criticism. For example, if my neighbor’s garden is more beautiful than my garden. Does it in any way improve the beauty of my garden by damaging the neighbor’s garden? No, not at all. People usually fail to understand this and try to drag the other person down with baseless criticism. So, if the criticism is actually false, still don’t counter back and try to keep your temper down. Although I know it would be very difficult and you might want to break his nose off his face. The counter back to such comments will make them happier. In this case the best counter back is to keep quiet, seems satisfied and handles the criticism gracefully with a smile.
I am done with my ways of handling criticism. I know it’s difficult but you can learn them by practicing. If anyone has any other way, feel free to share your views.